Today I was reading through some of Kelly's Korner's Moms who have lost children and a flood of emotion came over me. I CANNOT begin to imagine the deep sorrow of so many. Having to birth a baby that you know will never live, burying a child you've loved for years, or never ever being able to have a baby. One thing I've learned, is to never lesson someone's pain. Don't put heartache on a sliding scale.
I miscarried twins at 11 weeks (well actually I had a DandC after several weeks of bleeding). Though people meant well, everyone was saying, "at least it wasn't further a long...at least you have a baby already..." Although I know they meant well, "I wanted to scream, "I STILL HURT!".
I wrote a post a while back HERE that sums up my feelings on dealing with friends going through loss.
I just went through and copied the links to some of the posts I did two years ago that really were raw and honest about how I was feeling. Maybe it can encourage someone out there. Or maybe it can make someone feel like they aren't alone.
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